One of the ways to combat depression is to have a strong support system. Having a good family and friends makes the journey through life struggling with depression less depressing.
Bonding with Schoolmates
School is a place where at an early age we all either make a lot of friends or are alienated from others. I was fortunate enough to have a lot of friends growing up. I didn’t stay in touch with many of my high school or college friends, so I wouldn’t exactly say I found a tribe in my early years. However, in my forties I went to graduate school for counseling psychology and met a great group of people. Our cohort was very small (5 to 7 people) and we were all very close for the most part. This was a tight-knit community where I got a lot of emotional support.
Finding My Tribe
Well, I think I finally found my tribe! I just started working a business called It Works! promoting health and wellness products and I met two amazing women who love and support me and want me to stay accountable even when I am struggling with depression. They have told me that if I stick with them, I won’t ever get depressed again! Well, that’s not exactly what they said, but they are going to look out for me and make sure I don’t slip back into my old depressed habits like sleeping too much or breaking my commitments.2.)
Find a Spiritual Community
What are some places you can go to find your tribe or supportive community? There are many places you can go. One is church or another spiritual community such as a sanghen at a meditation center. Joining a spiritual community helps you to realize that life is greater than you and is a great place to go to be a part of something bigger than yourself. Most churches have bible study groups, singles groups, grief support groups and you name it! They got it! Meditation centers are a very close-knit group as well.
Happy Hour Here I Come!
Another place to find your tribe is through work. Depending on if you like your job and the people you work with, work can be an awesome place to go to find a community of like-minded people that you can hang out with and just enjoy being you! I had a job at an ad agency and some of my happiest times were hanging out with my friends at that ad agency during happy hour. Some twenty-odd years later, I still keep in touch with some of them and they are some of my favorite peoples!
Join a Meetup Group
Where else can you find your tribe? Well, I am a mom and I am a part of a meetup group of women who became first-time moms in 2018 so our kids are all about the same age. This makes it easy to arrange playdates. We have a lot in common because our kids are all going through the same things at the same time. Like right now we are all trying to potty train our toddlers! Fun, fun, fun!
Find a FaceBook Group
Social media is another place to find your tribe. I am the founder of three FaceBook groups. One of them is Mental Health Journeys which is a supportive community for those who struggle with mental health issues or have a loved one who does. Social media can be evil, but it is also a great way to connect with others that have the same interests as you. Do a search on groups that interest you and join a few groups. Some of my best friends are those I met on Facebook and have never met in person.
Find a Hobby or Sport
I used to play ice hockey. In fact, I played off and on for sixteen years. Again, those were some of the best times of my life. I miss the camaraderie of the women that I played ice hockey with. I played goalie, too, which was a lot of fun! I hope to return to the ice one day and reunite with all of my hockey buds. So, if you play a sport or have another hobby, these people can become your tribe.
Where Does Your Tribe Exist?
These are just some examples of places you might find your community for love and support to help you when you are going through depression. What are some other places you might find your tribe? Who all makes up your tribe?